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The Secret Knoopologist: 1

You’ve read The Secret Doctor, The Secret Lawyer, and The Secret Teacher – now it’s time for our new column to give secret behind-the-scenes insights and recommendations from Knoops: Oxford’s favourite hot chocolate store.

Ever been overwhelmed by the sheer number of options and possible combinations when you walk through those doors on Turl Street? Ever been too scared to go for a bold order for fear of it being all wrong? Ever wondered just how that chocolate tastes so damn good? In this column, I’m going to give you a peek behind the curtain and all the tips and tricks you need to make that ultimate indulgence even better.

Best Chocolates

There are roughly 20 chocolates always on offer in Knoops and it goes without saying that some are better than others. Although the price is often the first thing people look at, the key is often looking deeper. As you can imagine, all of the staff have all tried every last one so asking for pairing recommendations is always a good idea if you have a personal preference but for my first piece I’ll offer you a perfect drink for whatever mood your in; white, milk, dark or extra dark.

White

35% (Colombia) – Oat milk, lime and lemon

Out of the two white options, the 35% single origin is far superior, offering a distinctive taste as opposed to its oversweet counterpart. Paired with either an oat or almond milk to balance the sweetness, lime and/or lemon are the perfect combo for an indulgent and refined drink.

Milk

43% (Venezuela) – Hazlenut milk, cinnamon and sea salt

The 43% is the highest grade milk chocolate but still easily sweet enough. The hazelnut milk balances that sweetness and the cinnamon and sea salt bring out the butterscotch notes.

Dark

64% (Peru) – Hazlenut milk, cardamon and nutmeg

This is a staff favourite. Dark but not too dark, it is always what I recommend for people who say they fancy something dark but aren’t feeling bold enough to go too far up the scale. The cardamon is the dream pairing with the nutmeg.

Extra Dark

80% (Uganda) – Coconut milk, sea salt, chilli

The 80% actually isn’t as overpowering as some of the lower percentage extra darks such as the 75% or 73% but has a truly distinctive flavour and nuttiness to it. Coconut milk balances the bitterness perfectly and sea salt and chilli help bring out the flavour of the chocolate itself

Feeling extra bold?

Go for a 100%. Just once, take the leap. Some love it some hate it so be prepared or maybe get it with a friend to share. It is sensational paired with soya milk for extra thickness and with some sea salt to enhance the truly magical flavour notes. For a truly perfect experience get a marshmallow on the side, peel of bits of it at a time, leave to melt in the drink and sip through the marshmallow itself – this way you get the beautiful flavour of the 100% balanced by the indulgent sugary sweetness of the sugary vanilla.

So, that’s it for week 1. Email [email protected] with any questions, personal favourites, or Knoops-related queries…

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Review: Eastgate Brasserie — A hotel restaurant finding itself

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Eastgate Brasserie, previously Keepers and numerous other names, is the restaurant inside the Mercure hotel on the High Street of Oxford. From that introduction you might expect simple and boring dishes but that is far from the case here. The chef and manager serve up a diverse range of interesting dishes and some of them hit the mark fantastically. In time and with a few tweaks I’ve no doubt that this will soon become a great spot for students, families, and hotel guests alike.

We started things off from the starter menu and it was the perfect sign of things to come. The scotch egg was ok — just ok, but accompanied by a beautifully chutney and lovely pickled onions. The crab cocktail really stood out though. I had high expectations and it really is the most indulgent thing on the menu. Full of flavour, taste, and creaminess, the only shame is that the flavour of crab that I love so much does go missing. Arancini are always a nice sharing starter and these were tasty too but an abundance of cheese meant that they weren’t like those you might get in Sicily.

Scotch Egg

The main courses began with the Buttermilk Chicken Burger. This was a great example of a simple thing done brilliantly. The meat itself was full of flavour and given room to show it with simple salads and tomato filling. The onion rings weren’t too heavy on batter and the coleslaw was pleasantly crunchy. The chips themselves were slightly underdone but otherwise it was a perfect burger.

Buttermilk Chicken Burger

The Poussin en Cocotte is a chef’s special and certainly presents well. The meat itself is lovely and the potato bed soaked in juices and delightful — the only drawback is the slightly inconvenient serving dish!

Poussin en Cocotte

The seabass was my standout from the evening. Served on a bed of lentils and chorizo, the flavour combinations are ideal and executed to perfection.

Seabass

The house salad too is a great dish but returns to the theme of slightly overcomplicating things. It superbly pairs almonds, beans, and avocado but is served on a bizarre bed of humus that it could do without.

House Salad

Finally on the savoury front, the pasta. It is a dish that always seems so simple but is so easy to ruin and unfortunately the cheese and creaminess here come dangerously close. The green pesto had great flavour on its own but the creamy sauce was just too much.

Creamy Green Pesto Pasta

Desert wise again there were some standouts. Whilst the cheeseboard was disappointing for £12 the other two items, the Creme Brulee and the Melt-it-Down Flower pot were irresistible. The latter is full of berries and vanilla ice cream and served with a perfect warm caramel sauce. Don’t leave without trying it!

Overall, Eastgate Brasserie is certainly a step above your standard hotel restaurant. It’s well on the way to being a standout restaurant. The regular deal nights, advertised outside, will help it gain a foothold in the congested Oxford market. Pick the right dishes, and you will be sure to have a great evening.

This is(n’t) a surface level issue

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If watching footballers slide about a pitch for a couple of minutes floats your boat, then you would have loved the spectacle that was Chelsea vs Liverpool in the Women’s Super League. If you missed “Dancing on Ice” on Saturday night, not to worry because BBC2 had your fix with this on Sunday. After 6 minutes the game was rightly called off. The ground was frozen solid, as it was at 9:30 am when the pitch inspectors of the then-frozen ground deemed it acceptable. 

The pitch situation felt amateur, in a game with seasoned professionals trying to give their all sliding about comically probably wasn’t their plan. To give credit to the players, in the midst of the horrible conditions, the first couple minutes in which Liverpool managed a break at attack was entertaining. 

What makes the frozen pitch story so bad is that the women were made to play in conditions they never should have. Protocol was not followed. Match cancellations aren’t foreign, the WSL games weren’t the only ones eventually called off. Plenty of games across the EFL and National League also found themselves postponed because, as it happens, most football teams in the country had their state-of-the-art grass-heater-3000’s just squeezed by the budget list. What separates the WSL from the rest is that they however did not find themselves the centre of quite an embarrassing story for the WSL.  

There is no denying that the game wants to be taken far more seriously. A sentiment that the FA has echoed and has been reflected in the high attendance in many of the matches so far. Arsenal, for example, sold 40,000 tickets for its team’s London derby against Chelsea at the Emirates. But a lack of protocol and proper procedure was missed in the build-up to the game. The issue is that these kinds of mistakes stand to undermine a sport which deserves respect in its own right. This is the top flight of women’s football, one of the best leagues in the world, and it sends its players skidding across the pitch. 

The greater the league grows, the further from the belief that the WSL is in any way like a Sunday league match needs to be. Cancellations are huge, and a ridiculous lack of planning makes the league look farcical. Poor Liverpool fans who had made such an effort to see the women play headed back to Merseyside disappointed. The idea that last-minute postponement is within the realms of possibility needs to become less and less realistic. If the league is going to be taken seriously, starting games with the highest probability that it likely cannot last the full 90 minutes is not the way to do it. To cultivate growth, you need fans, and you can’t have fans if they have nothing to get behind. 

This situation isn’t a blame game. There isn’t someone at the moment to point the finger at, no menacing villain twirling his moustache behind the scenes. Unless there’s incognito salty Gooner Elsa in the stands hoping to see a Chelsea player take a tumble after their own win was snatched away from them at the Emirates, incidents of frozen pitches are entirely up to nature. What feels to blame here is the institutional factors that mean that there is greater carelessness in decisions, meaning the women have to play until it is physically impossible to keep going on, with no system in place to respond to these conditions. 

It comes back to the situation: the progress is almost there, so close yet so far. Perhaps this incident is just one for the bank, a lesson learned. Maybe on another day this story wouldn’t be a WSL one, but rather a story for the National League North. Yet it still starkly shows how far the game has got to go. What’s the point of putting Sam Kerr on the box of Fifa 23 if she’s just going to backflip on cold concrete? 

Image Credits: Katie Chan, CC BY-SA 4.0 via Wikimedia Commons

Former Vice-Chancellor receives £542,000 parting pay package amid staff strikes

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Former Oxford Vice-Chancellor Professor Louise Richardson received a total pay package in 2021-2022 of £542,000, an 18 percent increase from the previous year, based on research by the Sunday Times. This pay package is the sum of a starting salary of £411,000pa as well as the value of housing and additional benefits. 

The findings come amid ongoing industrial action by university staff regarding pay, working conditions and attacks on pensions. They are expected to take place over 18 days between February and March as well as a marking and assessment boycott.

Among the Russell Group universities, the chancellor’s pay package comes second only to the stepping-down Imperial College London president, whose pay and benefits package amounted to £714,000. The average for Russell Group universities of Vice Chancellor pay packages was £413,000 in 2021-22, an increase of 6 percent from the previous year.

When asked in an interview with the Financial Times about the sustainability of administrator’s pay increase while staff are struggling to stay afloat during the cost-of-living crisis, her response was that “I would really love to avoid talking about that.”

An independent committee recommended an increase to the Vice-Chancellor’s pay in 2019, concluding that the Previous Vice Chancellor’s pay was not reflective of the extent of responsibilities that accompanied the role and was out of line with UK peers. Due to the pandemic, however, Professor Richardson delayed taking until August 2021. Prior to this, it had not been reviewed since 2009.

The independent chair of this committee, Charles Harman, remarked that “The Vice-Chancellor’s pay is required to reflect the complex responsibilities of leading the world’s highest-ranked university in the face of ever-increasing global competition. The Vice-Chancellor’s salary was last set in 2009, and since then University income has more than doubled, staff and student numbers have increased substantially and Oxford now generates an estimated £15.7billion for the UK economy every year.”

In comparison with universities across the Atlantic, a recent article in The Chronicle of Higher Education believes that over 200 US university presidents salaries exceed that of Louise Richardson’s.  

The Office for Students does acknowledge that “Leading a university is a complex and difficult role that requires great flexibility, knowledge and experience, and it is right that those who excel in these roles should be properly rewarded.”

However, it also draws attention to the gapping disparities in pay within some higher education institutes between vice-chancellors and academic staff, warning that “universities should not be surprised to be asked difficult questions about this” and should expect “scrutiny from staff and students as well as the general public.”

The University and College Union (UCU), which represents academic staff, claims that 90,000 academic staff are on low-paid, insecure contracts. Many Oxford employees, especially those early on in their academic careers, report struggling to make ends meet in one of the UK’s most expensive cities.

The UCU general secretary Jo Grady claims that “There is a big gap between 3 percent and the inflation offer we have asked for”. 

One of the first tasks facing Richardson’s successor, Professor Irene Tracey, will be to resolve these tensions within university staff if she hopes to unite this ancient institution and lead it forward.

She addressed this source of conflict in her Admission Ceremony speech, remarking that “it is a priority for me to make sure the University is doing everything it can to support staff during these difficult financial times and to be an attractive place to work in the future.”

Moving forward, she promises as one of her top priorities to “immediately commission an independent analysis of all aspects of pay and conditions for all our staff – academic and non-academic – that will report directly to me and Council and on which we can act.” No timeline for this has been set yet. 

Professor Irene Tracey, due to the current economic situation, has decided to take a lower starting salary of £390,000, the pay level prior to the 2019 recommended increase. 

Have A Hot Girl Hilary!

It’s officially Hot Girl Hilary, the season for getting your freak on, the only time it’s acceptable to get with a guy from Christ Church on a Bridge Thursday (acceptable may be a strong word, I’m judging you a just a little bit for your choice in men). However, if you want to live Hot Girl Hilary to its fullest, The Big O by sexpert Oloni is a must-read. 

Described by Vogue as “the reigning sex and relationship guru of Twitter”, the British-Nigerian sex-positive educator writes the ultimate sex-positive manifesto to help women reclaim and pursue their sexual desires and autonomy. It is a book that doesn’t gloss over the facts and details, expressing Oloni’s clear wishes that we become less squeamish about sex. Sex is something that women are too often taught is something that happens to us, rather than something that we enjoy. Oloni’s dedication at the beginning of the book “To the women who refuse to let society dictate what they should or shouldn’t do with their bodies.” expresses her desire for sexual freedom for women, and what better book for me to recommend to the Hot Girls* of Oxford University.

Many of us can remember our own experiences with sex education at school which basically consisted of “penis in vagina”, “here’s a condom, now put it on this cucumber”, and my personal favourite, the ever-helpful, “do not have sex or you WILL get pregnant”. For most of us, this cisgendered-centred, heteronormative, and rather patriarchal form of sex education did nothing to quell our curiosities about the act of having sex. We grew up watching R’n’B and Hip-Hop music videos with video vixens shaking ass on TV, belting out the lyrics to Ignition (we didn’t know R. Kelly was a pedophile back then, we were just kids!), sex was everywhere, yet no one was telling us about it. Yet as Oloni points out in her book “Talking about sex on a biological, emotional and physical level are all vital. It helps us not only to understand how our bodies work, but also to become comfortable with them. We become empowered when we make what feel like the right sexual decisions in our life.”

In March 2022, Cherwell did a sex survey which revealed Exeter College as Oxford’s ‘top shaggers’, and as an Exeter student myself, I believe I am the perfect messenger to tell you about The Big O. It’s hard as an Oxford student to navigate an active and healthy sex life. Between the essay deadlines and the quite frankly immature student male population, it is difficult, especially for male-attracted individuals, to find the time to get to know their bodies and what they like on a sexual, as well as, emotional level. I am ashamed to admit that it was only last year that I discovered that women pee out of a different hole that is not the vagina. Despite having a vagina myself, I realised that I knew next to nothing about the organ. Lucky for me, Oloni gives us a rather helpful diagram of the vagina and the penis, including, the star of the show, the clitoris. 

Oloni’s book gives us all the details that a student at university, a time which is often pivotal for sexual exploration, needs to hear. Dealing with slut-shaming and purity culture in a world that is less than kind to women, and seems to express distaste towards any type of sexual pleasures outside of heterosexual missionary, means that a lot of us don’t get to explore what sex means to us outside of these confines. Oloni talks to us about a range of topics from consent and heartbreak to kinks and fetishes. Its slightly ambiguous title means it can be on your shelf without your nosy parents clocking you! And therefore, it is the perfect book to help you learn about yourself, your body, and your pleasures.

Have a very Hot Girl Hilary!

*Hot Girl Hilary is not exclusive to those who identify as female, or to those assigned female at birth. All genders are welcome to Hot Girl Hilary.

UCU announces dates for 18-day strike action across February and March

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The Universities and Colleges Union (UCU) has announced the dates for its new set of strikes, in light of increasing disputes with the Universities Employers Association. This action, scheduled for 18 days across February and March, will affect the teaching provided by the central university (lectures, faculty classes, graduate supervision).

The strike days are:

  • Wednesday 1 February
  • Thursday 9 and Friday 10 February 
  • Tuesday 14, Wednesday 15 and Thursday 16 February
  • Tuesday 21, Wednesday 22 and Thursday 23 February 
  • Monday 27 and Tuesday 28 February and Wednesday 1 and Thursday 2 March 
  • Thursday 16 and Friday 17 March 
  • Monday 20, Tuesday 21 and Wednesday 22 March

Oxford students whose education is impacted by the strikes have been invited to contact the Vice-Chancellor Irene Tracey, to discuss the effects of strike action in further detail.

Half of Oxford students report having experienced sexual harassment, survey finds

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A survey by the ongoing project ‘OUR SPACE’, which seeks to investigate Oxford students’ experiences of sexual harassment and violence, finds that 50% of students have experienced sexual harassment and 18% have experienced sexual violence while at the university. 

The project, launched in February 2021, argues that “sexual violence among higher education students is a public health issue”. Receiving university funding, it collaborates with the University and the SU in response to the increasing scrutiny.

Seeking to combat the “dearth of rigorous research assessing the prevalence of sexual violence among higher education students in the UK”, the survey’s findings provide qualitative evidence for what has long been known in ‘whisper networks’. This, it claims, is “essential for designing and resourcing responses, including monitoring the effectiveness of existing prevention initiatives.”

The survey’s findings highlight that sexual violence disproportionately impacts women, consistent with claims about the persistence of a ‘rape-culture’ at higher education institutions.

The systemic issues surrounding underreporting are reflected in the survey’s responses. Among the study’s respondents, only 1% who reported experiencing sexual violence and 12% who reported experiencing sexual harassment had made formal reports. 

The findings come in the aftermath of legal allegations surrounding the use of non-disclosure agreements (NDAs), used to gag victims, both at Oxford and other Higher Educational Institutions, as well as reports testifying to hostile responses to sexual assault complaints. 

In an amended statement, the university claims that “The University of Oxford does not and will not use Non-Disclosure Agreements to prevent the investigation of complaints of sexual misconduct or other inappropriate behaviour, or to prevent responsible whistleblowing”. However, this does not reflect the particularity of Oxford’s collegiate system, where only 3 of Oxford’s legally autonomous colleges have pledged to stop using NDAs for complaints about sexual harassment. 

Universities UK acknowledges that universities have been “too slow to address this issue”. It warns vice-chancellors against using NDAs, also advising universities to “strongly discourage” sexual relationships between staff and students. Oxford university does not outright ban these relationships, only requiring that it is brought to the attention of the member of staff’s Head of Department. 

Entering its next phase, the project is seeking to recruit students to engage in qualitative interviews, to better understand Oxford students’ experiences. In gathering such date, they seek to shape university policy and responses to reports sexual harassment and violence. 

Babel, or the Beauty of Multilingualism

My mum speaks Ga, Twi, Fante, Dangbe, French, Spanish and English. 

My dad speaks Twi, Fante, Ga, Ewe and English.

I speak English and Spanish (getting worse by the day).*

My name is Emerald Ace-Acquah, and I am a walking inferiority complex.

This feeling is amplified by ten in regards to the languages of my heritage—being unable to speak them feels like a connection to my identity has been severed. I often think about whether my kids will feel equally untethered and whether there’s anything I can do to prevent it.  

Somehow, Babel captured this feeling, and highlighted it but didn’t berate me for it. Babel unashamedly expresses the beauty and intricacy of language, the impossibility of translation and yet the honour of its pursuit. 

R.F. Kuang gives a multitude of examples of how translation brings to light different insights in other languages, particularly in Chinese** and I found this fascinating and enriching. (I urge anyone with Chinese heritage to read it—I would be honoured to be represented like this in such a wonderful book). But I will provide an example from

Twi touched my heart and made me realise how much I had underestimated my own culture.

In Twi, the phrase ‘odo yewu’ is an endearment that people use similarly to ‘my love’ or ‘my dear’. I heard it in lots of songs but could never quite figure out what it meant. When I asked my mum, she told me that ‘odo yewu’ means ‘love is death’. The fact that my Twi*** ancestors appreciated the depth and strength of love enough to acknowledge it and use it as a term of endearment is equivalent to some of Shakespeare’s best turns of phrase to me. 

I never saw Twi as romantic and I never gave it the credit it deserved. Just knowing the translation of that one phrase gave me a window into my own language and culture that I had been missing my whole life. But the resounding message, to me, is that there is so much more that I’m missing.

In Babel, multilingualism is a magical ability that gives you a portal into another world. However, it doesn’t work with just head knowledge. You have to understand the language in your heart, or maybe feel it in your soul. The language has to come alive to you. Babel juxtaposes two Chinese boys: one who left China when he was too young for Cantonese to fully come alive, and one who ‘lived’ in Cantonese before he lived in English. Throughout the book, the yearning and anguish of the former brother—who had been deprived of magic—resonated sharply with me. 

In fact, I hadn’t realised how bereft I felt until I read this book. Babel brought to light truths about myself that I was never fully comfortable admitting. 

Given that I’m a linguistics student, maybe this feeling is more severe for me than for the average person who thinks of language as just a form of conversation. But honestly, part of the reason I even chose to do a whole degree in languages was to unravel this insecurity inside me. I thought I could appease my inferiority complex about not knowing my own languages, by learning more about all of them—it didn’t work.

Now, I don’t want to sell Babel short—it’s about much more than these things. It tackles colonialism and the horrors that the British empire perpetuated In China, it tackles the class divide in Britain in the nineteenth century and its ramifications. It even discusses the wonder and delight of being in Oxford underpinned by the struggle of never really fitting in as a person of colour (and as a woman in the nineteenth century). It tackles white fragility. It tackles the cognitive dissonance that is necessary to perpetuate horrors and violence across the world without remorse. It tackles the tension of being a ‘model minority’ and knowing the rest of your people suffer a much different fate. It spans a multitude of genres and sophisticatedly manoeuvres between humourous, informative, action-packed and sorrowful passages. 

Without giving criminal spoilers or writing a full-on 10-thousand-word thesis, this article is my attempt to transmit to you why Babel had such an impression on me. I hope it worked. 

Babel is a masterpiece and I would encourage almost everyone to read it.

*Full disclosure: I used to be able to speak conversational-ish French and I can understand Ga and sort of understand Twi, but realistically I couldn’t get by in any of these languages. 

** I actually don’t have Twi ancestors, but I have Fante ancestors which is close enough. They are very similar languages and the tribes probably originated from the same parent tribe.  

Benedict XVI’s legacy – a misunderstood pope?

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With the death of Joseph Ratzinger, former Pope Benedict XVI, just before the dawn of the new year, more than a billion Catholics lost a powerful spiritual guide. Whilst Benedict XVI lacked the charisma of those who preceded and succeeded him, respectively Pope John Paul II and the current Pope Francis, he was a towering theological and intellectual figure. And, perhaps most importantly, a profoundly misunderstood one. 

Pope Benedict XVI was a controversial figure, both in life and death. Dubbed ‘God’s Rottweiler’ he was seen as a strong enforcer of church doctrine, maintaining confrontational and deeply conservative stances, particularly regarding issues such as LGBT+ rights, the sacramental definition of marriage, abortion and other issues surrounding female reproductive rights. From 1981 to 2005, he led the Congregation of the Doctrine of the Faith – once known as the Roman Inquisition. There, the then German Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, sneeringly referred to as the ‘Panzer Kardinal’, became John Paul II’s right hand man in all theological matters. Indeed, Cardinal Ratzinger’s views differed little to his predecessors, and, arguably, even with his successor when it came to the important issues of the day. Benedict XVI was an intellectual and an academic prior to being a pastoral guide: perhaps, this was his biggest shortcoming. Yet, many have argued that the three popes of the twenty-first century must be seen in a framework of continuity. Perhaps, as Ratzinger’s own secretary affirmed, John Paul II, Benedict XVI, and Francis encapsulated the three different theological virtues asked of a spiritual leader: hope, faith, and charity. It is this strong continuity which I believe ought to be stressed, particularly against those conservative fringes within the Catholic Church who have recently hijacked the legacy of Benedict XVI and used it in opposition to Pope Francis. The legacy of Pope Benedict XVI, nevertheless, speaks for himself, and sheds light particularly upon the importance of dialogue with young people and across faiths. 

While seen as a conservative, ‘God’s Rottweiler’ belonged to a reformist faction of the church for most of his life. In the 1960s, he befriended Hans Küng, a liberal theologian who questioned the Vatican’s control over individual priests, and Ratzinger was one of 1,360 prominent and radical theologians who, in 1968, signed a statement asserting their freedom in exploring their faith. The tumult of 1968 certainly shifted his approach, yet he never abandoned a reformist agenda. Indeed, the chaos of the 60s merely signified a transition towards a more controlled theological reformist project. In the Second Vatican Council and Pope Paul VI (1963-1978), Benedict XVI found ideological soulmates. Interestingly, even regarding the scandals which would eventually cause havoc during his pontificate, Ratzinger always took an uncompromisingly reformist line. It was he who asked John Paul II to take the powers to try cases of sexual abuse amongst the clergy away from the individual diocese and centralise them in the hands of the Vatican. In doing so, it became harder for individual bishops to cover up the scandals – something he must have encountered during his brief term as Archbishop of Munich and Freising in the late 1970s. The then Cardinal Ratzinger also argued that there should be no statute of limitations for cases of sexual abuse and paedophilia and pushed for a fast-track of clerical tribunals and dismissals. Crucially, Benedict XVI’s pontificate saw the largest number of priests and bishops be tried and lose their clerical status, hence being removed from the church. 

Benedict XVI, certainly, did not possess the charisma or the pastoral attention of his successor, yet he laid the strong foundations for Francis’ pontificate. He continued the path set by John Paul II in placing young people as the central focus for the future of the church, and thus he continued to champion and be patron of the various world youth days and connected celebrations. Further, he was a strong promoter of interfaith dialogue. His visit to England in 2010 was a historic moment, the first visit made by a Pope to England since Henry VIII’s break with Rome. And while his 2006 speech in Regensburg was criticised as taking an aggressive stance towards Islam, he never ceased to dialogue with the various representatives of the Islamic faith. Indeed, he was a strong advocate for a recognition of Palestine and had a close relationship with Mahmoud Abbas, the President of the Palestinian Authority. The problems which afflicted Benedict XVI’s pontificate were many, and perhaps his promotion of liturgical traditions, dogma and aesthetics aided in causing a rift between conservatives and reformists – a rift he desperately sought to avoid. Yet seeing Benedict XVI as belonging to one faction in opposition to that of his successor is a temptation which must be resisted. Controlled reform was what Benedict sought to secure, and all his reforms to the papal curia were confirmed by Francis. Benedict, as an academic rather than a prelate with much pastoral experience, was perhaps too weak to impose them on a divided church. This need not signify he condoned the extremes and excesses by some Catholic fringes. Indeed, his historic resignation must be seen as a partial admission of failure against those very fringes which now attempt to reclaim his legacy as their own. While Francis’ success in attracting young people belonging to different communities, as well as furthering reform in liturgy and theology, Benedict XVI’s pontificate must not be seen as the antithesis of Francis’. Rather, it should be deemed a humble, prudent, at times faltering, but steadfast antecedent to Francis’ laudable reformist policies. Benedict XVI may have become a rallying icon for catholic conservatives – chiefly represented by Cardinals Raymond Leo Burke and Robert Sarah – to be consequently deployed against the reformist Francis, but we must let Ratzinger’s own words speak for himself. In a speech given in 2016, the former pope gave a sermon on gratitude where he argued that ‘[the word] Eucharistomen points us to the reality of thanksgiving’, prior to arguing that ‘the Pope is one’. Ratzinger’s thanksgiving was towards the fact that Francis, who was present at the event, had been so generous and kind to him after his renunciation and de facto resignation. In practice, it was gratitude for the fact Francis had been chosen as his successor. Indeed, with this intricate Ratzingerian code and entanglement of words, befitting of a complex academic mind, Benedict XVI had signalled both his approval for Francis, and the strong reformist continuity between himself and his successor.

Image credit: M.Mazur/www.thepapalvisit.org.uk / CC BY 2.0 via Flicker

In Defence of Hook-up Culture

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Ayaat Yassin-Kassab discusses how we might come closer to a ‘reformed hook-up culture’ whereby we safeguard our feelings alongside embracing new experiences…

The hook-up scene is exciting. There’s the perpetual possibility of meeting someone new, whether you’re at a club or a pub. There’s sex with freedom from commitment. There’s the checking for texts, the late-night booty calls, the sad post-orgasm feelings. Do you get them a birthday present? Do you tell them you love them, just without strings attached…? The reality is hook-up culture is in a dismal place. Something that should be useful, formative, and fun now implies the inability to develop meaningful connections. But can sexual relationships be nurtured in the same way as emotional ones, and is there potential for an evolved hook-up culture; a reformed approach to casual yet meaningful dating?

Whether it’s a one-time thing or a friends-with-benefits scenario, a lot of the downside comes from the apparent inability to express feelings. Being physically vulnerable without being allowed to feel emotionally vulnerable is confusing. Feeling attached but unworthy of the other person’s affection, feeling jealous, feeling used, and then not communicating any of it because you’re not ‘close like that’, is inevitably restrictive. Equally, if you yourself aren’t that emotionally invested, then there is pressure to maintain decency: texting them enough, asking them about their day when you’re really more preoccupied with your own. In a hook-up scenario, you’re either too devoted or not devoted enough.

There is a gender disparity, too. Hook-up culture does not benefit women in the same way that it does men. On a physical level, women typically find it harder to orgasm, so if hooking-up is all about sex, they glean less pleasure. On a societal level, there is an emphasis on female virginity and ‘purity’ that makes the social stakes a lot higher. While men can boast a high body count, women are seldom allowed that same luxury. There emerges a vicious cycle whereby, however subconsciously, women who are attracted to men are aware of the fact that they are given value according to their level of attractiveness, and work to meet these standards. It makes sense – we all want to be attractive to the people we are attracted to – but in a world that oversexualises women while simultaneously subjecting them to sexual stigma, they have to be cautious. Many women then feel like they must either settle for hook-up culture in order to enjoy sex, or be in a committed and exclusive relationship. Now, that’s a big jump.

That’s not to say that men always enjoy and always benefit from casual sex : they don’t. They too are victims of mistreatment, oversexualisation, and feelings of emptiness or unfulfillment. It’s a sex culture that degrades and dismays, and it needs to change for the benefit of all those that participate in it.

However, it’s not too late. We speak about hook-ups as though they’re discardable by definition, we are wary of ‘catching feelings’ or being ‘in too deep’, but it seems we need to embrace our passion in order to revive the art of having casual sex. The potential for complex emotions should encourage us to explore them, not stray from them. This raises the question: can we nurture sexual relationships while still maintaining a sense of freedom?

For starters, we need to take casualness down from the pedestal. You don’t have to be in an officially binding relationship in order to search for meaning in sex. To fully participate in a purposeful reimagining of hook-up culture, you need to be aware of your boundaries, willing to meet people you may not necessarily like, and able to healthily end things. Not being in a relationship doesn’t excuse being an indecent person.

In the case that attachments form, we need to be more mindful that such an attachment has  the potential to improve the sexual relationship, and not be so quick to either end it out of fear, or get to work wife-ing them up. Confidence and security are necessities. You cannot rely on your hook-up for validation and also maintain a sense of stability as the terms of your relationship fluctuate and adapt. In order for hook-up culture to become meaningful and interesting, it must become messier. As the potential for worthwhile connections increases, so does the potential for hurt and rejection. And of course heartbreak is a natural part of life, but you shouldn’t invite it into your life unless you know it will not knock your sense of self-esteem.

So, this reformed hook-up culture relies on maturity, willingness to explore different types of relationships, and ability to shape romantic connections that don’t necessarily conform to a convention. Openness to multiple connections at one time is also very welcomed. The emotional intellect to speak about and experience a range of emotions will change everything. But a crucial component of this new age of sex is a sexual partner that’s equally as mature as you. You cannot do all of the work and will have to find someone who is like minded and who understands your intentions.

Whether it’s the before or the after, hook-up culture is not for everyone, and doing it well is difficult to achieve, but it’s certainly possible. The empty cycle of one-night-stand to one-night-stand is not fulfilling; it leads to bad feeling and bad sex. So, why continue? It’s time to raise our standards and maintain them.