This week, after months of social media silence and furious guesswork from fans, Kylie Jenner released an intimate, home-video style film, entitled ‘To Our Daughter’, announcing and charting her pregnancy to the world. Her new instagram of baby Stormi Webster has become the most liked image on the platform.
Suddenly everyone wants to see if Kylie will retreat from public life – and everyone has an opinion about whether or not she should. The Kardashians shouldn’t be anyone’s feminist heroes. Kim, came out as a feminist to Harper’s Bazaar last year, despite previously shunning the label. She may use her platform for shining a light on homelessness (a recent Keeping Up episode raised over a million dollars for LA’s homeless problem), police brutality, and the struggles of the Armenian people, but the others, (particularly the younger ones) are frequently and consistently problematic.
Kendall and Kylie have in the past year spawned hundreds of angry tweets and think-pieces about their regular cultural appropriation, selling bizarre T-shirts with their faces superimposed upon those of dead music icons, and, of course, that infamous Pepsi advert. And Kim’s nude photos shouldn’t need to be called feminist. She’s so jaw-droppingly sexy that while posting a selfie may shift our beauty ideals away from Kate Moss-skinny, her body is no less unattainable a goal for an average woman. Posting them shouldn’t be a radical or political act. Except, of course, they are, because the vile wave of misogyny that seems to follow every post means we must debate the ethical value of her tits.
As long as they’re attacked for enjoying displaying their bodies and their wealth, that display and that very existence becomes political. Kim now accompanies some of her selfies with blog posts about slut-shaming. Kylie, the youngest and quietest, is yet to develop Kim’s activist streak. But she’s also perhaps had the toughest time – since she was 15 she’s been compared to her supermodel sister, often branded the ‘uglier’ of the duo. As anyone with sisters would know, that’s your worst nightmare. If the same were to happen to me ,I’d probably go into hiding.
But Kylie didn’t: she got lip fillers, and used the media furore and outrage about her newly-plump pout to create a lipstick and cosmetics brand that’s now worth hundreds of millions of dollars. In fact, she’s predicted to be a billionaire by 2022. I don’t think anyone expects the Kardashians to really stop caring about material wealth. They shouldn’t have to – they’re brilliant businesswomen. In fact, our reaction to Kylie’s brief absence from the spotlight says far more about us than her. Despite outrage at their social media presence, so many still crave the Kardashian brand, and why shouldn’t they profit from a patriarchal industry which, for want of a better phrase, ‘loves to hate’ them.
But whether or not Kylie retires from public life or continues her life full of cameras and cosmetics doesn’t matter. The Kardashians aren’t radical feminists and they don’t want to be. But what they have done is turn a sex tape leaked without Kim’s permission into a billion-dollar brand, and given America a First Family of powerful, ambitious women whose love for their family, and sheer, unashamed exhibitionism make them – if not role models – people I can’t help but like.
Could Friends be any more problematic?
Friends is the sitcom classic which in many ways defined a cultural era. But in the same way the quintessentially 90s haircuts and fashion seem out of place in 2018, so too has the era’s taste in humour suffered from the passing of time.
Since Friends was released on Netflix earlier this month, millennials have expressed reservations about many of its storylines. The show is often transphobic, homophobic, and outright sexist; many of the recurring jokes give a stark and unforgiving reflection of a less socially progressive era.
Friends is far from a bastion of diversity, and from this, humour is often cruelly derived from anyone who doesn’t fit the ‘copy and paste’ casting method of white, straight, middle class characters. Viewers will remember only two notable non-white characters in the show, Charlie and Julie, neither of them last long enough in the series to make a significant impact.
The most notable criticism is probably the show’s often blatant homophobia and transphobia. Chandler is paranoid about being perceived as gay, the concept of a male nanny forms the basis of an episode tinged with homophobic undertones, and mean-spirited jokes about Chandler’s transgender father, Helena, are a staple for the show’s iconic wedding episode between Monica and Chandler. Correct pronouns are dismissed with little thought, Monica describing Helena as ‘the man in the black dress’ to the delight of rapturous canned laughter.
On top of the racism, sexism and homophobia, Monica was never allowed to forget she was once overweight. “The camera adds ten pounds!” she says in the episode titled ‘The One with the Prom Video’, to which Chandler responds: “so how many cameras are actually on you?” Her weight is a constant source of mockery, the writers consistently assuming that audiences will find the concept of fatness inherently funny.
I was a young teenager when I began watching Friends. The cast were charismatic, attractive, and the supposedly ideal image of young adulthood. But re-watching Friends, the humour often appears cheap. What once felt witty now provokes tangible discomfort, the kind you experience when forced to spend time with a particularly ignorant grandparent.
It calls into question what the purpose of comedy is, does it have a social or moral purpose? Do we have an obligation to call out insensitive jokes, or merely take them on the chin and view them through the more informed social lens which we can derive from our now more progressive social landscape? It’s good for audiences to demand more from their TV shows. Shows with the success Friends experienced over its ten year run permeate the cultural consciousness, and often what we find funny is a reflection of what we find acceptable in society.
The influence of TV shows doesn’t end when they are taken off air, they evolve into similar cultural incarnations, like How I Met Your Mother, and The Big Bang Theory. Joey’s sexism is reincarnated into the form of Barney Stinson, both labelled as ‘womanisers’ but more accurately described in this context as a term for men who objectify women.
For this reason, it’s important we remain critical of the way different genders, sexualities and races are depicted on screen. The perpetuation of stereotypes is damaging, and when your identity becomes the punchline to a mass audience, it no longer feels like innocent fun.